Why low-income battered woman stays with their abuser
Domestic violence is a manifestation of the historically imbalanced power relations between women and men. That has resulted in discrimination against women and domination over female gender by men and the blocking of women from attaining advancement. Womens security and economic independence are essential for the eradication of women abuse (Ghosh, 2015). Several women who are staying in an abusive relationship know the decisions they make: whether to enjoy a rich life-in-abuse or have a peaceful poor life. Domestic violence is a primary challenge for social workers. Low-income women are likely to keep up with battering, as poverty acts as a catalyst to this kind of conflict. The objective of this paper is to look at the reasons why low-income women still stay with the same individuals who abuse them.
Fear; some women choose to stay with an abusive partner for fear of being inflicted with more injuries, both physically and mentally, or even killed. As women who opt for separation from abusive men have a higher chance of getting killed by the same men as a payback for quitting relationship (Ting, 2008). Poverty is the main reason for the low-income abused women to stay, fear of taking legal action against perpetrators might lead to job, income, or housing loss. It is asserted that this group of women are usually under-educated, seriously reducing their level of comprehending situations and getting alternative employment.
Most women are forced by society to depend on men for financial support. A woman would not want to put herself or her kids to live on bettered breath, as getting and enforcing orders for child support may be a problem. Since they do involve court processes that may drag for a longer period, cause emotional stress, and will require financial resources that she may not have at that time (Ghosh, 2015). In some cases, a woman may be living from hand to mouth, such that the little cash she earns from her hustle will only be used in purchasing basic needs and not go the courts or the cases my turn to be fruitless. Other abusive spouses may make up reasons or even declare themselves bankrupt in a court of law for the kids and the woman not to access his money. Low-income women will never leave for getting shelter too; maybe a challenge as cheaper houses are inadequate or not in supply.
Family is another reason why a battered woman may stay with an abusive spouse. It includes both close and extended families who may decide to blame the woman for breaking up her house. Women are taught that it is the responsibility of a woman to nature both the children and the husband. A woman will be compelled to stay put to avoid societal fallacy judgments that they are not good mothers or wives (Ghosh, 2015). She will try as much as possible to change her character in the hope that she would save her relationship or marriage and abuse. On many occasions, the society is often relaxed in getting entangled in what it terms private family affairs. Hence, the choice of leaving will insinuate that a woman will need social support, something that most societies around the globe are reluctant to provide (Danis, 2003).
One’s religion or faith may make a woman stay in an abusive relationship. Some religions will demand the woman to undergo lots of cleansing rituals, something that would bring about emotional stress or negative energy. Other faiths would put pressure for the woman to stay asserting that women were created to be submissive to men regardless of the abuse one is going through. Low-income households are significantly likely to experience domestic turbulence and the stress that comes with it (Danis, 2003). As some women live with perilous men not only to them but also to the whole society just for the basic needs to be provided. It is clear that poverty brings about an additional problem for abused women.
Parenting may also make a low-income woman stay, as her main concern will be who and how her children will be raised after she has left. In case she leaves with them, how will the children relate with the new dad if she finds one or will a single parent raise them. It makes it hard for a woman to uproot her kids from their dad. Bearing in mind that children need or desire both parents’ families. In some cases, kids would; love their dad more, have a great concern about him and regularly blame their mother in case of separation. Women will try so hard to present both the dad as a perfect person and their union to be the best while suffering in silence (Danis, 2003). Such a situation leads to psychological and emotional stress and in the long run, the woman will be destroyed. Social stigma with regards to poverty and lack of enough money for activities kids need, including recreational and transportation, will make a woman stay as she will always want the best for her children.
The abuser will always want to keep the woman so clinched to him; today, tomorrow and in future such that the woman is too busy or fatigued to have a different plan for her future. He may use his financial privileges to deny her food, shelter, and clothing just for the woman to play to his tune (Chereni, 2015). He uses his financial muscle to manipulate and control who she sees, what she does, when she goes out, how long she will stay while she is out and who she communicates with. He controls her entire life virtually by capitalizing on her low income to enslave her in an abusive relationship.
In addition, forgiveness and fantasy of love contribute to low-income women staying. The notion that ‘I love him’ makes it easy for her to forgive continuously regardless of what she passes through after or before forgiving. The fantasy of love in forgiving makes her stay and eliminate any quitting idea that may come across in times of suffering. Some men often take advantage of such a woman and continuously batter them knowing very well that at the end of the day, he will be forgiven. Too forgiving women are often turned to punching bags, options, and emotional toys since they have shown no signs of starting their own lives.
Men tend to say that a woman will always argue that I love him, and will not want the affair to end, just because of abuse. She would even counsel herself that he is not abusive at all times and she will believe his regrets and hope for a change that may never come (Chereni, 2015). Women may stay in an abusive relationship because of familiar behavior. She can’t just imagine walking out of a relationship that she knows very well to go and start up a new affair, something she is unfamiliar with. She will operate on a wise saying better the devil you know than the angel you do not know, and she won’t give a new angel a chance at all but stick to her relationship despite her tabulations.
Substance abuse plays a role in women battering. Abusive men who have fully undergone alcoholism rehabilitation, relapsed, most likely they are going to relapse back to into conflict (Ting, 2008). At the same time, in unions where the male partner is underemployed and a drinker or unemployed and a drinker, there are high possibilities of domestic violence, the fiscal stress of the man may trigger it.
The lives and safety of low-income women rests on women’s empowering, economic security, and equality. Women leaving or living abusive unions require help and not just problem intervention to be self-sufficient. It would enhance women personal power in an affair, providing her with an alternative exit, an abusive relationship, and clear her bills alone from a wanting relationship. It will take joint efforts of communities, individuals, government, and the private sector channeled to low-income women empowerment.
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