1.How do different identities impact the ways people experience sex, love, and romance? How do different identities construct “acceptable” or “unacceptable” performances of sex, love, or romance?
In no less than 350 words, answer the above question using the readings for the week. For full credit, responses should cover Rubin OR Vance, and any 2 of the other 3 readings (Garcia, Hernandez, or Naber). Hint: make sure you have read Rubin AND Vance before starting this post; pay specific attention to the “charmed circle.” You may also wish to consult this week’s lecture (though the readings should for this forum provide everything you need to answer the question).
2.Also write 150 words peer review for the following several paragraph.
“The Charmed Circle and the Outer Limit is something that both the Professor and Gayle S. Rubin mentions. This is an interesting concept because the “Charmed Circle” refers to ‘good’ and ‘safe’ sexual practices, while the Outer Limit represents the ‘bad’ things when it comes to sex. Of course, many of the ‘bad’ things mentioned in the Outer Limit have become normalized in today’s society – people have become more accepting, open about their ‘bad’ tendencies.
Some of the things in the Outer Limit include: homosexuality, being promiscuous, pornography, using objects, etc. The Charmed Circle would include the opposite such as: heterosexual, married, monogamous, no pornography, vanilla. Moreover, Gayle also touches on topics concerning the politics of sex. She claims that in today’s world, modern and even in the old times, sex was used as a way to dominate the way things are governed. If anyone was anything but heterosexual, you are considered an outcast and treated terribly in society. By doing so, this creates a societal norm that divides several people, mandating what/who they can or cannot do when it comes to their private life. However, these strict rules have loosened over the years, and the Charmed Circle v the Outer Limit represents the Old v New.
Some readings that really interested me were Jillian Hernandez’s regarding Chonga Girls and Sexual Aesthetic. She focuses on Latinx people who are often described as being low-income, promiscuous, and stubborn – this is a Chonga. The Chonga identify misidentifies what a Latina girl actually acts/is. They get the wrong idea about how a girl truly is based on her sexuality and ethnicity as well as her background. Hernandez claims that there are two narratives when it comes to the Chonga girl: good and bad, where it connects to Gayle’s politics when it comes to sex. Another reading was by Lorena Garcia and her analysis of the sex education Latinx kids are receiving at school.
Many are targeted and stereotyped, especially those who identify as female. They are taught to abstain from sex until marriage and to stick with the opposite sex. Anything opposite of this is frowned upon. Moreover, another form of sex protection that is being forced upon girls is the Depo-Provera hormonal shot. Lastly, there is Nadine Naber’s reading that talks about the preconceived notions about the Arab Virgin and Americanized ‘whore.’ For instance, depending on what culture you are in, one is seen as good and others as bad. Naber mentions that many cultures want to ‘American’ in their way of being/cultures, all the ‘good’ aspects of America. However, they believe that one of the bad aspects of America is that many who identify as female are very promiscuous and do not wait until marriage. She angles her research in ways that give varied points of view, which is nice that she tries to be inclusive.”